All kinds of nipples

Ruby turned one month old on Sunday.  Let’s discuss…

I’m noticing some patterns developing.  Namely, the nightly cranky, cluster feedings.  I keep telling her that I am going to cut her off if she continues to punch, kick, twist and tug at my nipples.  She continues to ignore me.

Thus, we have re-introduced the pacifier.  Part of me is worried that she will forget how to breastfeed again.  And part of me thinks that would be a bit of a relief.

We’ve also re-introduced the bottle.  After all, why settle for two types of nipples when you can have three?

We’re filling the bottles with expressed milk.  That I have been pumping in an effort to minimize the painful rock-like formations that have developed in my breasts.

Ruby and I went to our first mom’s group playdate on Friday and had such a great time.  Getting out of the house and interacting with people that talk and poop in a toilet is invaluable.

Speaking of talking…almost nightly I have a (different) dream about a baby expressing her needs to me verbally.  Hmm…what do you suppose that means?  She’s crying more and more everyday and it kills me that I don’t know how to soothe her.  She has one particularly shrill cry she works up to that just breaks my heart.


*See credit at end of post*

Apparently all this crying can be “normal” and typically peaks between 6-8 weeks.  I cringe to think it’s going to get worse before it gets better.

We have been using The First Years Close and Secure Sleeper at night since she has rejected any kind of bed without a person attached to it.  So far it’s actually been working pretty well.  She still tosses and turns, but she doesn’t really wake up.  I wake up periodically throughout the night (for reasons I’m still trying to figure out), feed her while she’s half asleep and lay her back down.  She doesn’t cry, and I get a reasonable amount of sleep.  I’m crossing my fingers and praying to several Gods that she can keep this up.

Ruby and I are both in LOVE with the Moby wrap.  With practice I’ve become pretty comfortable with tying the wrap and getting her in it. It generally takes 5-30 minutes of walking/bouncing/vacuum cleaner/pacifier to get her to stop crying once she’s in it.  (Because, as mentioned previously, she cries A LOT.)  But eventually she remembers she likes it and I get some hands-free peace!

I look forward to the day I can transfer her from the car seat to the wrap without the whole quiet-the-baby song and dance.  Then I could do things like, you know, grocery shopping.

Following up since two weeks – both eyes are now goop-free, her ears are still hairy and she can totally lift up her head.

And last but certainly not least.  Ruby and I both survived three days without Grandma while Jason was at work.  Don’t laugh.  This was a huge accomplishment.

*This photo was taken at one week by Erika Jackson.  She shot our wedding and (obviously) Ruby’s baby photos.  Her photography is incredible, and she’s just such a great person.  I highly recommend her to anyone in the Bay area.


9 thoughts on “All kinds of nipples

  1. Just wanted to give you kudos for breastfeeding through the as you call them “painful rock-like formations.” When my son was born and I tried breast feeding, I got the same thing and that’s when I threw in the towel… I also then read a part of Tina Fey’s book Bossy Pants (my sister-in-law figured I needed a laugh at this point) about being a mom and cried the rest of the night while my husband tried to decide what to do with me haha. It’s tough getting through those first months, but sounds like you are doing great!

    • Let me tell you – I have seriously considered throwing in the towel many times (in just one month). My husband could probably relate to yours too! Ha!

  2. I’m glad things are going *well*, or maybe they’re still just going. :-/ It seems like both my girls made huge changes (for the better) at 6 weeks, so you’re almost there! I can’t believe it’s already been a month. I totally empathize with your first few days alone. It’s HARD. You’re doing a great job! Keep it up!

  3. Cluster feedings are no fun. That’s definitely when I bring out the bottle. Also, mylicon drops in case it’s gas.

    Good luck with the crying, my kids were not really criers. Kirsta can commiserate though! She had a whole dance/swaying routine thing she would do to get him to quit.

  4. Hey Laura! I’m following your blog since only a bit before Ruby’s birth (Congratulations! Although sometimes one doubts if congrats are the right thing to wish :)) Have you thought seeing an osteopath concerning Ruby’s crying and tossing at night? I don’t know if that’s common in the US, but in Germany it gets more and more usual to see an osteopath with your newborn, just to check if everything is “positioned” right and to give baby’s body very gentle stimuli, if there’s need to. In fact my son loved the treatment, because it was more like being hold in warm hands. And it took only 15 minutes. Sometimes there’s something “dislocated” after birth, which is more than comprehensible, ie in baby’s backspine (or joints), like a blockade if you want. And you know it yourself: Backache makes you feel restless, gives you additional headache maybe, won’t let you sleep silently. Just an idea. I know it worked for a close friend of mine and my boss’ daughter as well. Best wishes: Susanne

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