The latest in method parenting

By now I think we’ve all seen or heard about the article in Times about attachment parenting.  I’m not going to comment on it at all other than to say that I had no idea there were all these different parenting styles until after Ruby was born.  Normally I’m an information junkie, but I surprised myself and read not a single parenting book while I was pregnant.

Since her birth I’ve been amazed by all the methods I could subscribe to and all the rules that go along with them.  Do this and absolutely don’t do that.  Or do lots of that and never under any circumstances do this.  Well, I’m here to say I finally decided which route I’m taking.

I’m calling it the – Do Whatever the Hell Gets Me Through Today with a Fraction of My Sanity – parenting method.  You’re welcome to join. Chances are whatever you’re doing lines up exactly with the recommended approach.

Let me tell you about what my parenting style says about naps. There are three basic rules:

1) Put your baby to sleep using whatever method works.
2) Let your baby sleep wherever she sleeps best.
3) Don’t worry about any “bad habits” you might be creating.

Translation: Ruby naps on the boob, and I don’t care what you have to say about it!

Sorry for getting so defensive there.  Part of me feels guilty for spending a huge chunk of my day pinned to the couch.   But, quite frankly, I just don’t have the mental fortitude to battle a cranky baby for two hours in order to get a 20 minute nap in the crib. And aren’t I supposed to prefer sitting on the couch anyway?

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9 thoughts on “The latest in method parenting

  1. I’m amazed at how worked up everyone gets about their preferred parenting “philosophy”. It has been a major topic of discussion in my house lately, and we’ve come across some interesting stuff, like this:
    http://www.nypost.com/p/blogs/parent/item_rpF133GDPfXqJh4sN0l2pM

    Bottom line: You shouldn’t feel any guilt about doing what works best for you and your family! Your method sounds pretty much like what mothers have been doing for centuries, so I’m sure you’re doing just fine.

    • Interesting article. Also interesting that there really isn’t any data anywhere about how babies/kids raised under a certain method actually turn out. (Other than parents that say, “This is what I did and look how great my kid turned out!” Because, really, what else are they going to say?) It’s really all just theory.

  2. I totally agree with your parenting style! Honestly I don’t think you can create bad habits in a 3 month old, but even if you could, your sanity is more important than their habits right now. I was totally a routine junkie with Amelia (starting at 5 months) but Addilyn likes to sleep in the car so I find myself running a lot of errands around her naps rather than trying to get her to sleep in her crib. I hope you’re feeling semi-sane today! 🙂

    • You know I’ve thought about the car nap thing before. Ruby usually falls asleep too. Except for it’s no fun when she screams instead of sleeping.

  3. I’ve seen some pretty stupid people raise perfectly functioning kids. If I ever have kids (God forbid), I will buy the book on your method. 🙂

      • I am with Pam on this! Sometimes it looks like the kids are going to be what they are going to be. I’ve seen some perfectly functioning kids with stupid parents, and some pretty amazing people have the brattiest of brats. Your approach sounds very reasonable to me, not that I would know anything. I hope you are feeling better these days 🙂

  4. Sleep… I agree with Kari, at 3 months there are no bad habits, it is just finding the middle ground that you both can tolerate! Leah definitely slept on the boob or on me for a long long time! The other girls were more a product of mechanical mothering with the swing or bouncy seat since I could not sit with a baby on the boob 24/7. They all sleep in their beds now and I even manage to get a solid chunk of sleep most night! Other than total neglect, there is not much you can do that will screw her up at this age. neglect does not include her crying while you pee or make yourself food! Gah, Leah never stopped crying, I feel for you! i though she was plotting against me in her tiny little head! It gets better though!

    • I like that you highlighted the crying while you pee! That’s the sort of thing you don’t think about before you have kids! Fortunately Ruby has become a bit more independent. I’m now able to actually set her down. Which is so helpful for doing things like peeing, eating, brushing teeth etc.

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