Will you be my friend?


I have been blogging for almost 5 years now. When I take a step back and think about it, that kind of feels like… wow. Except for I guess I should be a little more honest with that statement. I have had a blog for 5 years now. During which there have been several peaks and valleys of blogging more or less or, well, not at all.

In 2013 I published 20 posts, one every 2 1/2 weeks or so. I followed that up with a whole 2 posts in 2014. Now here I am again and I sort of feel like, “Where did everybody go?” Turns out a lot of my blogging community did the same thing I did. They quit blogging. Or cut way back. And I miss them. I miss the interaction. I miss hearing about a reader’s reaction or input in the comments. I miss reading about their lives on their blogs. I miss the connection and the friendship.

I don’t want to seem ungrateful, because I am. I am grateful for anyone that spends their precious time reading a post on my silly, little blog. I’m grateful for the few bloggers from my past that are still around. And I’m grateful that there are others out there I haven’t met yet.

I’ve been browsing tags and scanning blog rolls and butting into conversations. Basically doing all the things I did when I first started blogging, and it feels a little uncomfortable. It’s like I’m awkwardly asking, “Will you be my friend?”

Because that’s what blogging means to me. It’s not about a microphone or a stats race. I know for some it’s about writing and I can appreciate that. But I’m not really a writer. For me it’s about friendship and connection and community. I want mine back or to find a new one, and I want it now! But that’s not how it works, is it? Just as in real life, it takes time and a little luck to build meaningful relationships.

So I suppose I just need to be patient… I suck at being patient. There, now you know something about me. What should I know about you?

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8 thoughts on “Will you be my friend?

    • If you run, you are totally a runner. Although I understand where you’re coming from. It took me years of running before I would actually call myself a runner. I think I had some crazy notion that I needed to be “fast” before I could call myself a runner… which is ridiculous. All you have to do is run. How very cool that you run trails. I want to venture into the trail world myself. You must not totally hate hills if you’re choosing to trail run!

  1. Totally relate to the difference between having a blog and actually blogging! I’ve been kinda shy as a blogger though; maybe I think too much “Do I matter? Does what I have to say about this matter at all?” But cheers to friendship through blogging. Maybe you have one more blog-friend?

  2. Hi Laura, your resurgence in the blogging world has inspired me to write again (and I obliquely refer to you in the post I wrote today). While I have not been commenting, I have been following along with your adventures with music, writing, Ruby, and baby #2 on the way (Congratulations!). So consider me a friend-in-hiding.

  3. Aaaaaaaaaand then I let this sit in my inbox for four days. I’m a terrible friend! But I do so love reading the things you have to say (even if I don’t always get to it immediately). The thing I don’t care for with blogs is that it’s a slow process, slow interactions. That’s why I’m enjoying Twitter more these days, because you get more immediate feedback. Almost too much, actually. Twitter is very fast-paced, but it’s a lot easier to just jump into a conversation and not feel so… eager, I suppose.
    I definitely count you and other bloggers I read as my friends!

    • Oh my goodness, you are so not a terrible friend! You are one of the few I mentioned who are still around! And I mean, really, everyone who reads blogs reads them when they find the time. I definitely don’t read every post the day it’s posted. I feel totally lucky that you even read my blog at all!

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